Anonymous asked: How or where do you find (presumably atheist) women to date?
Good question. Lately I have been having a good think about the nature of bars, clubs and parties in regard to the women attending each.
I have found that meaningful relationships are formed after talking to a person and therefore clubs are out, if this is what you are looking for. Clubs do, however, serve a purpose. They provide a place to go to have fun and look for other people with whom you might like to have more fun. It is a place where judging a person on their looks is normal because there is no way to hear what they are saying. To sum up, a club is where you find an attractive hook-up and not a soul mate.
Bars are a good place for making friends and meeting girls. Don’t buy every girl a drink, or even any girl unless you really want to. If a girl is interested in you, or is enjoying your conversation/company then she will stay and talk to you regardless of whether you bought her a drink. Ask questions and listen intently. Gently steer the conversation either in the direction of her childhood to try to form an emotional connection or towards a topic you are really interested in. (To see if there would be any interesting conversation in your relationship) Maybe learn a magic trick or two. Don’t take the magic seriously; make it into a joke by saying you bet a friend it wouldn’t work, or something similar. Bars are a place where friends and relationships are made and chilled fun is to be had.
Parties have the best of both worlds. If you are in the dancing room, you can pretend it’s a club, or you can sit in the kitchen or garden to just talk to people. Make jokes and be prepared to laugh at yourself if anyone makes a joke at your expense. A long-term relationship wont work if the girl thinks you can’t take a bit of banter. Getting them on their own is always good, that way you can have a good conversation without being interrupted.
The suggestions above are all rather alcohol fuelled. They work best because confidence is key and a drink and a half gives you all the confidence you need. Find places around your town that hold evening classes in something you’re interested in. Join groups for sports that you enjoy and most of all. By being part of these groups you will meet women who have at least one thing in common with you and you wont have to think too hard for first date ideas. Don’t be afraid of being rejected. The only answers you can get are YES and NO to ‘want to go for a meal later?’ Remember, don’t dig for a yes, leave them a number and walk away. They’re a stranger; you never have to see them again if you don’t want to.
